melinda duckett dead, son still missing
tommyUpdate 2006 Sep 28: We had to close this post to comments. Please use the new post to continue your discussion of the Trenton Duckett story.
Update 2006 Sep 11: corrected factual inaccuracies
More odd twists to the disappearance of Trenton Duckett.
I try to post all the Florida Amber Alerts here, and the latest one has garnered a bunch of attention. There are about 40 comments about the Leesburg Amber Alert posted a couple weeks ago, including one by someone puporting to be Trenton’s mother, Melinda. After the story appeared on Nancy Grace, people across the nation are letting their feelings known. It’s a crazy story.
Melinda had a tumultuous relationship with the dad, Joshua. She also refused to take a polygraph. The mother has been pilloried for her writings on her private myspace page and there have been suggestions of a drug addiction. Plus Trenton’s grandfather is on death row.
Now just last night, Melinda was found dead in her parents driveway grandparents house, apparently from a self-inflicted gunshot wound.
The child still has not been found.
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September 10th, 2006 at 2:30 pm
EVERYONE I HEAR TALK ABOUT THE MOTHER HAS NO DOUGHT THE MOTHER KILLED HER SON
September 10th, 2006 at 2:46 pm
I AM A MOTHER AND IF ONE OF MY CHILDREN WERE MISSING, I WOULD NOT BE LAUGHING ON CAMERA.
EVERY INTERVIEW I SAW THE MOTHER WOULD ADD A LITTLE MORE TO HER STORY. I THINK SHE BACKED HERSELF INTO A CORNER WITH LIES AND DID NOT LIKE WHERE SHE WOULD BE GOING.
I THINK IT SO SAD THAT SHE TOOK EVERYTHING WITH HER. SHE COULD HAVE LEFT SOME CLOSURE FOR THE FATHER. I DON’T KNOW THEIR PERSONAL REALTIONSHIP, BUT NOBODY SHOULD BE LEFT WITH THE UNKNOWN. THIS WOULD BE A MOST HATEFUL AND VENGEFUL PERSON.
SHE REMINDED MY OF THAT SUSAN (MOTHER).I THINK SHE WAS FROM LA., SHE KILLED ALL OF HER CHILDREN BY LOCKING THEM IN THEIR SEATBELTS AND LETTING THE CAR AND ALL OF HER CHILDREN GO IN THE LAKE.
THIS MAKES ME SICK TO NO END!
September 10th, 2006 at 7:22 pm
She was found dead in her GRANDPARENT’S driveway
September 10th, 2006 at 7:38 pm
Melinda Duckett was found dead Friday afternoon of an apparently self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head (shotgun), at the home of her grandparents’house. She was found in a closet. The Leesburg Police Department in a press conference at 4:00 pm today, have asked local land owners of isolated property to check their property or have it checked by a property manager for 2 year old Trenton. The Police have also said, in so many words that Melinda did leave a suicide note ie electronic? May she rot in Hell!!!!
September 10th, 2006 at 7:49 pm
Thank You Nancy Grace! She went the limit questioning this woman and there was no doubt to anyone watching that this mom had something to do with her sons disappearace. I just hope we can find her litlle boy alive. She was definitely involved.
September 10th, 2006 at 10:20 pm
Yes, Thanks to Nancy Grace! Who needs a trial…….? She basically admitted to killing him by killing herself. No Mommy would kill themselves before the answer to where her missing kid was! So now the question is… where is Trenton’s body? The fact that she ever thought she’d get away with it…. shocking. I feel bad for the father. He did not deserve this…!
September 10th, 2006 at 10:36 pm
Oh please. It’s bad enough the mother probably killed her own son, but to hear people praise Nancy Grace makes me sicker.
September 10th, 2006 at 10:53 pm
she definitely killed her son and did not show any maternal concern/remorse during Nancy Grace’s interview. she invited the two friends to give her an allibi, she had already killed her son…what a very sick woman. someone should have seen the signs.
September 10th, 2006 at 11:59 pm
People, People, People. Can’t you see it? She sold the child. Hopefully it’s to a couple who need a child and will be brought up in a better environment. If the child is dead, we can’t change that.
Oh, by the way, To “Saint Judas”: I hope Nancy Grace gets a chance to put you on her show. I always wanted to meet Judas.
September 11th, 2006 at 4:57 am
September 11/06 I agree with the many comments, it was apparent from Nancy Grace’s expert questioning that she had something to hide. Fortunately, the friends decided it was better to cooperate with the police and tell the truth than to provide the child’s mother with an alibi.
September 11th, 2006 at 11:55 am
It was not Nancy Grace’s responbility to
question this twenty-one year girl. It is the responsbility of the F.B.I. and the local Police department.I bet the law enforcment is angry with Nancy’s behavior. Did Nancy push this young woman over the edge?
September 11th, 2006 at 1:22 pm
Cheers to Nancy, one more insane criminal off our streets!! She saved the expense of a costly investigation, trial, and appeals by holding this woman’s feet to the fire and demanding answers!!!! Melinda Duckett is GUILTY, GUILTY, GUILTY. Too bad Susan Smith and Andrea Yates didn’t do society the same favor.
This little boy is/was sooo adorable. The poor father! If she didn’t want the child, why could she not care enough to let HIM have Trenton?
September 11th, 2006 at 1:31 pm
This women should never have agreed to go on the show if she coudn’t handle the pressure. Or keep track of her lies.
September 11th, 2006 at 1:50 pm
There is no doubt in my mind she knew where her son was as she would not even tell where she had been the last few days other then to say she was shopping. I know if she had nothing to do with his missing she would have told every place and time so if anyone had seen anything they could help. She was guilty and got what she deserved. Too bad she didn’t leave a note to tell the state of her son’s life. I feel for the father and hope he can find some closure. This whole thing is similar to that of Susan Smith of SC where she drowned her two boys to be with her boyfriend. She is behind bars for life and deservedly so.
September 11th, 2006 at 2:54 pm
I thought she was guilty when she was talking to Nancy Grace, if she didn’t want to answer Nancy’s questions, she should have had someone else talk for her. I praise Nancy
Grace.
September 11th, 2006 at 3:38 pm
I watched Nancy interview Melinda. When I heard that Melinda was found dead I was struck with the thought that people will both praise and criticize Nancy’s interview. I believe to do either would be a mistake. Melinda was a very troubled young woman who was on a downward spiral of destruction. Nancy’s interview would not have been provocative at all if Melinda’s bizarre answers had not been so blatantly fraudulent. Nancy exercised restraint on several lines of questioning that those of us watching might not have. Melinda was backed into a corner before she talked to Nancy, and on the show she backed herself further into a corner with few choices left to her. Nancy was just Melinda’s last public stop on her path to self destruction. Nancy’s interview was probing, skilled and restrained in all the appropriate places, and she bears no responsibility for Melinda taking her own life.
September 11th, 2006 at 3:45 pm
Just to clarify some things…Melinda was found in her grandparents home in a closet in the bedroom with a self inflicted shotgun wound where she placed the shotgun under her chin and fired away.
She was NOT found in the driveway.
FBI and FDLE are the agencies doing most of the investigation on this case as they were involved from the start when the little boy went missing. FBI was the first on the scene after Melinda shot herself. The grandfather was the one to call FBI agent and local police to make the notification.
Melinda also stated that she has complied with everything that law enforcement has asked of her but I know she did not agree to a polygraph…..well, wonder why ? GUILTY?????? I am pretty convinced that Melinda did murder her own son and unfortunately it won’t be easy finding his body now that she is not here to tell. No note has been left and no words of a diary either.
September 11th, 2006 at 6:10 pm
I believe her lawyer actually advised her to not take the poly.
http://www.tbo.com/news/metro/MGB7BVKUWRE.html
September 11th, 2006 at 6:42 pm
Yep, he’s probably alive. Daycare started somewhere else…Her lawyer did tell her not to take a poly, yet the constant harrassment..Oh, well, sure hope the cutie is alive.
September 11th, 2006 at 6:43 pm
I didn’t see the nancy Grace interview,did she ask the mother about the clothing that the child was wearing when he went missing? I ask this because I find it strange that the mother reportwed the child was last wearing a stripped shirt and jeans, but was in bed in his own room. No pajamas or night clothes, the jeans and shirt are what she last saw him alive in, prior to his death? Fruedian slip on her part?
September 11th, 2006 at 8:10 pm
I don’t understand why she took the life of her son; (and that is probably what happened) but she seem to have quite a controlling problem with her husband even before he married her last year. For her to describe the clothing that Trenton had on the last time she seen him was a striped shirt and jean shorts would tell me that she killed him. (I mean who puts down their child at bedtime in those clothes.) She probably didn’t think the whole thing out before taking the little boys life.(It seem like to me just reading up on the story about her; she probably did alot of things in life in acting out before thinking about the consequences. I’m truly sorry that she felt like that she had to kill herself. All I know, is the fact that if Trenton is dead; then he is better off than living with his mom.(At least he is in the arms of Jesus playing with other little angels up in HEAVEN.) I just hope the little one did not suffer. I pray that Joshua Duckett can go on and just know that if his son is indeed dead; then he can know that his son is safe with Jesus.
September 11th, 2006 at 9:01 pm
I seen the Nancy Grace show and I have felt since seeing the story that the mother was involved with her son disappering but I also find it troubling that Melindas mother did not go to her daughters side when she found out her grandson was missing..did the mother of Melinda not remain in NY? I wonder and pray this to be right..maybe some of Melindas relatives came in from NY over the weekend and took Trenton home with them? I find it troubling that a judge would give her temporary custody after finding out she had to be watched in a facility for a phyciatric reason that had to do with harming someone. I read an artical that she answered about that and it almost sounded like she was talking about the present situation, saying she didn’t mean to harm someone..I pray so hard that Trenton is alive and God be with and give strength to all those involved.
September 11th, 2006 at 10:24 pm
she killed this child and she knew she was not going to get by with it so instead of going to jail she killed her self the laws need to change parents and sex offender are getting away with too much thats why they keep killing there children look at the one in texas she killed 5 children but who cares about the children let get the murdered off that all the system cares about all i got to say is god bless the poor children.
September 11th, 2006 at 10:27 pm
i dont even know why she went on the nancy grace show for she wouldnt tell nancy anything but nancy knew she was involved with killing this child.
September 11th, 2006 at 10:46 pm
Last month, Melinda Duckett requested a restraining order against her estranged husband.
In her petition for injunction, she said she received an e-mail from Joshua Duckett in July, threatening to hurt her and Trenton, court records said. Her petition stated “Joshua would hunt my son and I [Melinda] down and that he will bury my son with me.â€
What if she hid the son with relatives/friends because she did not want Joshua to “hunt Trenton downâ€. That may explain why she seemed so incoopertive with anyone. She couldn’t let Joshua get to her son, and the only way that could happen is to make herself look guilty. Police do not do anything to protect you anyway untill it’s to late. Maybe she finally found know way out so she killed herself.
September 11th, 2006 at 11:40 pm
Where is the source for claiming that Melinda Duckett has been in a psychiatric facility? I did read that her mother, who lives in New York, had never met Josh, even though he & Melinda were high school sweethearts and married for over a year. Must be lots more interesting information about this family. I am sure the tabloids will expose all of the oddities in their past.
September 12th, 2006 at 2:56 am
… must agree with the person questioning what the baby was wearing… no mother (at least not me) would put a baby to bed in denim shorts, and whats up with the shirt or maybe not? at 2 they can not take a shirt off alone……. what was she saying? don’t you bath your toddler,dry them off, put cozy jammies on , read them a book or whatever your routine is? bed snack and then bed time? such a shady story, and sooo sad for that little boy. so disturbing, wonderful people try to have children for years and struggle and spend so much money trying to make it happen… and then some are blessed with a gift from God , and , well we don’t know what happened , but we all can guess, something is NOT right about this terrible tradgedy, I am so tired and disheartened with all of these repeated stories, with innocent children involved. so sad
September 12th, 2006 at 3:11 am
I believe after watching the interview that she too is guilty. But, that is only our opinions. There is nobody that truly knows but her. Yes, this does have the same air as the Susan Smith case and the apparant faking of emotion in front of the cameras is also very similar in nature. I also found it appalling when she laughed during several interviews and the laughing was caught time and time again. She avoided questions and kept changing the content of the questions with different answers. She is a manipulator.(WAS a manipulator). Answer to the question posed above: Why didn’t she let the husband have the child instead of killing him. We see people like this daily in our lives, but we don’t comprehend the complexity of their disorders. People like this are SELFISH! They think only of themselves. Once again, and for the last time, she committed suicide so she would not go to jail. She didn’t feel guilt. People like this are too self-centered to feel guilt. Everything is about them. The husband is really lucky that he made it out of the marriage alive. I too was married to a selfish person like this that threaten the life of our children on many occasions. I never turned her in. You just don’t think they are serious. The are maniputlative, evil people. They are also sick. But, none the less, guilty of everything that they do. She couldn’t deal with the idea that all her lies were going to be exposed and she follow the same path that Susan Smith did. She was well aware of where she stood with the authorities. Again, I was married to somebody just like this and there are many men out there that know what I am talking about. The sad thing is though, and I want everybody to listen to this. I don’t care where your from or who you are. When parents are divorced the judge gives the custody to the mother 99% of the time without question. That is bullcrap. My kids did not and do not belong with their mother. She is as nuts as this lady was and she still has them. She verbally and physically abuses them everyday and the justice system does nothing to get them out of that house. I have been to court 5 to6 different times trying to get them out of the house and he will not move them. Sadly enough it has to come to this to see that it isn’t always the right decision. All judges reading this, take a good hard look at who you give the custody too. Just don’t give to the Mother everytime. It isn’t right! They should go to the best parent. Or, things like this happen. I will bet you that the husband has warned the authorities about how nuts this woman was before this ever happened. They don’t listen. Take care of your Children people, love them and care for them or your nutty ex-spouse will hurt them! It happens everyday. Verbal and physical abuse is just as bad or worse as murder. It just doesn’t get the air time.
September 12th, 2006 at 9:10 am
She absolutely had something to do with the disappearance of her son. What a jerk!! Who the hell laughs when talking about their missing child? If that were me I wouldn’t even be audible, I’d be bawling my eyes out way too hard.
September 12th, 2006 at 9:48 am
As a mother of a son of a past TERRIBLE custody battle, you all need to understand something. Melinda’s motivation, no matter WHAT happened (did she kill him? sell him? hide him?) was based on the facts that 1. if she really cared about him she would have fought for him and 2. she just didn’t want Josh (the dad) to have him. It’s sad when you are so unhappy with an ex that you would make the innocent suffer too. LISTEN: if you don’t want children, DON’T have them.
September 12th, 2006 at 11:40 am
Melinda Duckett said she put her two year old son down to bed at 6:30pm. Who puts their children to bed that early? Its summer, still daylight! Not only that but I think I heard that she put him to bed wearing jean shorts and nothing else. Once again, who sleeps comfortably in jean shorts. That alone gives me an idea of the kind of mother she was. When I was watching Nancy Grace, everything that she said about the little boy was the exact opposite of the father. Plus, she refused to take a polygraph test. Even if her lawyer advised against taking a test, I know that if my child were missing I would do anything to try and solve the case, even if my lawyer advised against it.
September 12th, 2006 at 11:56 am
First of all Susan Smith was from South Carolina (not that anyone is proud) and second of all this blog places too much on the mother and not enough on the child. If everyone did something to help find this child like they waste time being judge and jury over the mother then this story probably would be solved. She’s dead you can’t change that and she can’t read what you are saying about her… just move on and focus prayers and efforts on TRENTON.
September 12th, 2006 at 12:05 pm
She did it, she did it, she did it. No doubt.
September 12th, 2006 at 12:44 pm
I just pray that this child be found dead or alive so that the father does not have to live the rest of his life not knowing. It’s very clear that she would not have taken her own life unless she knew her baby was not coming home.
I think she was all about “Melinda” and just didn’t know how smart Nancy Grace is. She probably never even watched Nancy Grace. I know I wouldn’t want to go before her with a guilty hand.
September 12th, 2006 at 12:48 pm
I agree strongly with the point of what he was wearing when she said she put him to bed, but most importantly, as a mother of two and grandmother of two, who puts a child to bed at 6:30 p.m. for the evening. My children would have been so curious about company (even at the age of 2) that they would have been up for the bathroom, glass of water…something.
September 12th, 2006 at 12:54 pm
I want to know why this little boy was in her custody? I guess there were reports that people, especially Joshua, thought she might harm herself or Trenton. This is when the court system fails our children. The mother should have NEVER had physical custody of this little boy, until she was evalutated and treated! I hope Trenton is found safe and sound and I hope the authorities find out the details behind his abduction.
September 12th, 2006 at 1:50 pm
I watched Nancy Grace (both episodes covering this case) and feel Nancy asked the same questions as the police and FBI would have asked. Nancy’s show is to get information out to the public in hopes of finding leads for the safe return of Trenton. Parents would normally accept that opportunity with open arms. When the mother acted elusive a red flag went up. I watched the local interviews and she also became suspect when she would turn from tears to laughing. She wasn’t covering issues up very well. I believe she was backed into a corner and surprised herself on how her answers were not adding up and people became suspect of her. She was young and immature to be able to handle it, thus her taking the easy road out. I’m sorry she took with her any information to find Trenton to her grave. I will keep watching and hoping………
September 12th, 2006 at 2:18 pm
There is an old saying that says it takes a village to raise a baby. That statement could not be more true and it is important for people to understand this. There had to be some kind of sign to indicate that something was not right. Someone had to have noticed parents, grandparents, friends, neighbors etc. As an adult you have a voice to speak out, these innocent children don’t!
So I am asking everyone to please be alert. If you suspect that a child is being neglected or mistreated in ANY way and you don’t speak out you are enabling there abuser. It is a horrible tragedy surrounding the Duckett family, who knows if we will ever get the answers we need. With Melinda taking her own life we will probably never get every piece of the puzzle. All there is to do is remain vigilant and pray day and night for Trenton’s safe return. But we can make sure it doesn’t happen to another child.
If you suspect the abuse or neglect of a child I urge you to call 1-800-4-a-child, every second you wait could put another childs life in danger.
September 12th, 2006 at 3:52 pm
I want to know if the the husband really did send her a note saying Melinda and Trenton would die. Doesn’t anyone else think it’s very odd that she gets that note, and a few months later the baby is missing, and she is dead? As for polygraphs, they are not even admissable in court because they are not considered reliable. I had a crime committed against me once, and the guy who did it supposedly passed a lie detector test. If you don’t feel guilty about what you did, you probably can pass the test. I don’t know what happened to Melinda or Trenton, but when someone dies or disappears after someone else has threatened them, I would be looking at that person first.
September 12th, 2006 at 11:53 pm
why is everyone against her??? I saw nancy interview the dad the first day and her would not answer anything. he kept saying, I can’t answer that. I got bad vibes from him all along. there are two sides and a suicide does not happen overnight. it is the culmiunation of a great deal of issues over a long period of time that finally causes a person to “do it”. I cant give you any reason why i say this, but dont be so quick to judge her. the father is not so “innocent” and has his side. do all of you think they divorced cause he was so great?please. women usually want to keep it together. think twice before all of you judge her.
September 13th, 2006 at 1:59 am
I see Joshua Duckett as unemotional and avoidant. His blog is devoid of any references to his son’s disappearance, whereas an acquaintance of his and a stranger use Trenton’s pic for their avatar to help in the search. Joshua uses a pic of himself.
Nancy Grace insists on referring to the cut in the screen as a 10 inch slit. Melinda Duckett specifically said the screen was cut on the bottom and the sides (imagine a flap) were cut up to ten inches high. Nancy refuses to hear certain things so she can slant the “evidence” and keep the pot stirred.
Nancy doesn’t entertain the thought that she could be responsible for “bullycide”. I’m sure if she has a show about a kid who is mentally ill, undiagnosed and untreated who gets harangued and kills himself, she would be all over the meany with her acidic quips and call for the death penalty. Like she said, the truth is hard and it hurts, but she won’t apply that to herself. She can’t even see that her eyebrows are terribly misshapen and how distracting that is to viewers.
Polygraph results mean nothing. People who are guilty of murder have “passed” them before. While Jack Trimarco’s game show was mildly entertaining, his spittle on how the FBI goes about seducing people into taking a polygraph exam was BS semantics par excellence - lots of laughs.
FYI
Melinda Duckett announced the date, place and time of her and Trenton’s birthday party online in a public web community. She listed her cell number too, which can be traced to the billing address through companies who offer that service.
It’s possible a stranger had stalked her from the party. They could have later broken into the house and took Trenton - maybe threatened to kill him if she said anything…even to the FBI.
It’s possible Joshua had someone do it.
It’s possible Melinda gave or sold Trenton to someone or killed him.
There are more possibilities, I’m sure.
The abosulute fact in this case is that only Trenton knows for sure what happened to Trenton. I hope he is safe and well cared for.
September 13th, 2006 at 2:19 am
Here it is in a nutshell:
Actions speak louder than words.
Melinda has told us with her actions that she KNEW her baby would never return. She knew this because he died at her hands. She knew that she need not wait around until the police searched the right wooded area and found him. She left this world already knowing where her son was. She put him there and obviously, by her actions, knew he would not be coming back.
Simple logic tells me this….my gut feeling as a mother tells me this.
If she was really able to expect the safe return of her son, she would still be here waiting, wouldn’t she? Just like the rest of us who did not kill him and know he was already dead.
You bleeding hearts need to wisen up!
If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!
September 13th, 2006 at 2:42 am
And besides! Why was it Nancy Grace who had to ask the tough questions??? Why hadn’t the police already asked her this stuff??? If they had done their jobs and asked her, she would never have been on Nancy Grace in the first place! SHe would have been in jail where she belonged AND she’d still be alive! THat is for sure! THose questions Nancy asked should have been the FIRST thing the police did when he first was reported missing!!! Nancy Grace didn’t botch this case, the police did! THey should have been on that little mom like stink on poo. Why was it that her son was missing for 12 days and she was running free without ever having been asked those hard facts??? It seems that Nancy Grace could make a good living getting paid to teach the police how to ask simple yet pertinent questions and then to analyze the answers! It isn’t rocket surgery, it’s just the facts, man. And Melinda coulnd’t come up with the facts for one simple reason, because she was LYING and she was guilty.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:40 am
Nancy Grace and Mark Klaas were using the national media spotlight only to obtain information that may bring clues to the child’s whereabouts. Period. They were not “grilling” her. They did become more persistent when she became evasive, heck, why would she bite the hand that feeds?
The police likely asked her the same questions, but I didn’t get to hear her answers. If Melinda and Trenton were at (for instance) Wal-Mart in Plant City at noon then others there might be able to substatiate her story, or better yet, identify other suspicious activity from candidate abductors.
However, when the mother becomes defensive, evasive, practiced and manipulative with two people that have offered their hearts and forum to finding her child then something is wrong.
Clearly, if any mother had nothing to hide she would detail, with excrutiating resolution, every step they took the 24 h before the child went missing. Her accounts don’t match, she had no answers.
Mark Klaas is right. The media is your best friend in finding a missing child. Here, the media was getting too close to the true abductor… she then hid, and then made it so that they can never get the real story from her.
September 13th, 2006 at 2:26 pm
N.G. is a bully and she went overboard with her inview last Friday night. How frigtening this is to now allow the media to deside who is quility or innocence.
There should be an outcry over this type of behavior!!!! Think about this–next time it might be you or your familly’s future decided by the media.
We have courts to take care of this we don’t people N.G.
September 13th, 2006 at 4:05 pm
Have any of you “caring” people heard of post partum depression? If she was feeling that AND the kid disappeared, AND she had just gone through a divorce, it is hardly surprising a suicide was the result of all that. You think she didn’t know that all of you people were going around thinking . . oh sorry . . . knowing she killed her son?
Anyone who supports Nancy Grace’s self-serving form of “justice” is misguided at best.
September 13th, 2006 at 5:18 pm
You view NG’s desire for simple information to be bullying? I’m sorry, but Melinda had a national forum, certainly many households in the area where the family lived. One hour on television is a lot of time to rebuild the timeline prior to his abduction. Unfortunately Nancy Grace and Mark Klaas hit a wall with Melinda Duckett.
I saw the show. They were both compassionate and assistive until their simple inquiries were evaded. MD gave roundabout, practiced answers– not a good idea when conversing with a former trial attorney.
The media, especially Nancy Grace, NEVER said she was guilty or innocent. They gave her a forum to help search for her missing son and MD used it to build a very negative perception of herself.
This is such a tragedy. I hope that Nancy Grace, Mark Klaas, Mark Lundsford and Adam Walsh NEVER stop trying to get information that can save a missing child. They do an outstanding community service.
September 13th, 2006 at 6:33 pm
We have not been given enough facts, about this case. Where did Josh meet Melinda (not her real name, she was from Korea, mail Order Bride?).
Some of the pictures displayed her as materialistic, but hard, especially the, wild tattoo on her left arm. Yes , I am old fashion, She is producing borderline personality disorder behavior and completely self centered. She probably thought of her son Trenton as a toy or friend not a child who needs mentally healthy parents to teach him, educate him (and Anonymous, we do not need a village to raise any one).
The mother was emotionally detached, because it is all about her, Narcissistic people are closed off to anyone else’s needs but there on, if you read any of the blogs she posted, is evidence of her emotion instability. She was oblivious to reality, her purpose was her, and when life was not going her dream world way, was to hurt the father through the son. The court systems turn there head to the pain that is inflected on the fathers, and are sympathetic to the woman, the bias has caused society undue pain. Until Fathers take a stand and revolt the system and become strong leaders and take the lead as we where designed and purposed to be .
So here come the Nags, the Feminists, to pick on the Father.
He probably married a Mail order wife, she is very attractive, so he went for looks, and did not realize her mental disposition was as bad as it was….To accuses the man of hiring a killer, really, he could be slandering the mother, but he isn’t, he seems focused on his son, where he should be.
Find the evidence, forensics, and facts, then we all can draw our conclusions with truth, and the evidence will lead us there. Not emotions and feelings.
THE FATHER IS INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTLY SOMETHING THE DIVORCE COURT HAVE FORGOTTON, I PRAY TRENTON IS FOUND, HE IS THE INNOCENT VICTIM HERE.
AND TO NACY GRACE, YOU ARE PARTY, AND THE PERSON WHO PUSHED HER OVER THE EDGE, WHICH IN A CASE LIKE THAT , SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN IN CUSTODY, OF THE LEGAL AUTHORTIES. NANCY THE BLOOD OF THIS WOMAN IS ON YOUR HANDS!!!!!!!
September 13th, 2006 at 8:18 pm
nancy grace is a sorry hooker. You people have no proof. This girl was very young and very distraught. Nancy Grace killed that girl and probably the hopes of ever finding out what happened to her little boy. Nice.. Nancy Grace is no God, Judge, Jury and leader of the free world. Somebody needs to get that hooker out of the media.
September 13th, 2006 at 8:31 pm
First of all…
Robert… Melinda was not a mail order bride. She was adopted by a very good AMERICAN family.
Stands with a fist..
Give me a break. Melinda and her family were preparing themselves for the worst possible news regarding Trenton. She didn’t know where the baby was, she has prepared for the worst. She was run down. You never went through family crisises have you? When your in a marriage which isn’t working, you become estranged from your husband and become a single parent overnight. While shortly after he threatens to take your life as well as your sons. Then 2 months later your son is missing? Thats too much for any mother to bear much less a 21 year old girl!
Melindas actions on NG didn’t speak louder than words. It was NG’s words that you were hearing. Melinda was probably harrassed to do the show. She was probably told by her attorney what to NOT say. It probably did sound rehearsed, but so what. When your stressed the max it’s going to sound that way.
NG is going to make a big deal of Melindas death it’s called RATINGS not the truth.
Have you thought that maybe Joshua has Trenton, and Melinda found out while at her grandparents home? There is a bizzaare past here between these 2.
This blog is ridiculous. 2 things are for certian..Melinda is gone and cannot defend herself and Trenton is still out there. Instead of casting judgement on the mother, get emails out there to possibly help Trenton! Your wasting time in accusing but I don’t see anyone trying to help ELECTRONICALLY….
I can say this…. I have.
September 13th, 2006 at 8:50 pm
I am a mother of two and I would go bonkers if one of them went missing. My prays are definitely with Little Trenton. He IS so adorable! If she sold him I pray that the people are 1. God-fearing and 2. come forward. If she has harmed him - I hope he did not suffer. May God be with you Trenton
September 13th, 2006 at 9:10 pm
The son was an innocent angel born to a hell witch.
The mom was a hot psycho MILF. Thankfully she killed herself.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:16 pm
Mellie and Cricket and the other lunatics,
Wake up, smell the coffee, face the facts. Melinda Duckett was a psycho. As I stated in an earlier blog, this was proved in high school. Joshua’s mistake was getting involved with such a psycho. Josh has proven himself innocent in many ways. Melinda proved herself guilty in many ways. She tormented him while she was alive and she is still tormenting him in her death by not leaving a note letting him know where his precious boy is. As also stated previously, our family has known Josh for many, many years and he is not the type that would abuse or harm anyone. Anyone in this area can tell you that Melinda was a psycho. She didn’t suffer from post partum depression. She suffered from selfishness. She didn’t want her son and she didn’t want Joshua to have him either. Reading all of this crap from your warped minds is the very reason why I don’t waste my time on these sights. I came here first and wrote a comment and came back tonight and wrote this, but I won’t be back because this is most definitely a place for screwed up people.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:18 pm
oh… please… please… please… stop casting stones. i cant stop crying for the mom, the dad, the child, … even if melinda is guilty of harming her child, she already PAID. OK. she gave herself the death penalty. let her be in peace. stop judging.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:22 pm
i have really been paying attention to all of this and i am totally amazed about how these 2 adults have put themselves before their child. josh has not seen his son for months, i see melinda as a selfish, attention seeking women. she has a lot of very deep dark secrets. this women was very disturbed, she had something to do with the BEAUTIFUL babies disappearance. she had shown no emotion for the child missing. she did not cooperate witht the police and questioning. this entire case just makes me sick at my stomach. i pray for this child everyday all day. GOD BE WITH HIM.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:28 pm
thanks ’stu’ and ‘wife of…’ . so hard to find any ‘human’ among this sea of ‘humanity.’ to those so quick to judge, be very careful for you might find yourself in the very shoes of whom you condemn. life can do anything to anyone at any time. perhaps it’s you who must smell the coffee.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:29 pm
you all are really stupid. who are you to say that this lady should burn in hell. thats up to GOD and GOD alone.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:34 pm
Frankly, most of you here are unbelievably short-sighted.
Not only do you judge guilt or innocence on appearance without waiting for a proper investigation or arrangement of evidence, you also ignore something obvious:
It is not the place of the media to act as judge, jury, and executioner. It is a very dangerous precedent for media to arrogate to itself the right to substitute for police, prosecutor, and courts and so prevent a full and correctly-done handling of the matter.
In fact, in my opinion, the relevant prosecutor should try to nail Grace, and the family should sue Grace.
September 13th, 2006 at 9:40 pm
“In fact, in my opinion, the relevant prosecutor should try to nail Grace, and the family should sue Grace.”
thank you. i was just thinking that miss grace, what an ironic name for she is so graceless, has some, not all, but some fresh blood on her hands. it boggles my mind what she did to that little mother on live TV. i cannot believe this… how dare she!
September 13th, 2006 at 10:22 pm
You people are idiotic, just like Nancy Grace. Why are you praising her for driving a woman to suicide , if you believe she hurt the child, which I do as well, then wouldn’t you want her to confess first so the father and other family members could have some closure?
You’re all nutjobs - just like Nancy Grace.
September 13th, 2006 at 10:49 pm
I watched the Nancy Gracy interview and the whole time thought the behavior of Melinda was not what I would have assumed a mother of a missing child would be. This was even before Nancy got tougher on her about where she and her son were before she reported her missing. I believe that the police are at fault here for not realizing what the american people who watched the interview realalized, that Melinda Duckett was the only person involved with the disapperance of her son, and had the police been a little more intuitive and had this girl in custody where she should have been.
September 13th, 2006 at 10:55 pm
Those who want to accuse Nancy Grace of being the reason why this nutjob killed herself, get a life. If you have to go kill yourself because you don’t want to have to answer where you were before your child went missing, or answer whether you took a polygraph, or answer what stores you may have shopped in, or answer, oh that’s right she didn’t want to answer anything and before the she was trapped in a lie she made sure she wouldn’t have to answer anything else. Nancy Grace is no more guilty than the police for not seeing what was right before their eyes.
September 13th, 2006 at 11:15 pm
Obviously this girl had mental problems that should have been addressed long ago, but that didn’t happen! So now here we are with this little angel missing praying he is still alive, knowing that she had something to do with his disappearance. Nancy Grace is in no way responsible for her suicide! No one talked her into going on the Nancy Grace show! She was a big girl and if she gave a damn about her child she would be here now looking for him.
Kudos to NG for showing the public what a guilty coward melinda was.
September 13th, 2006 at 11:19 pm
Nancy Grace can go to her grave knowing she pushed this woman (Ms. Duckett) over the edge– of course it won’t matter much because she has no conscience. She insists on being the investigator, prosecutor, judge and jury. Hopefully this will be the end to NG’s “career” so we don’t have to listen to the senseless, rude, aggressive and ugly hate that spews from her mouth. If Ms. Duckett did have anything to do with the disappearance of her child, she will be answering to the only individual worldly enough to judge her…. and guess what… It’s not Nancy Grace!
September 13th, 2006 at 11:36 pm
To Chris:
NG did not push this woman!!! What she did is show that Ms Duckett was guilty like the local law enforcement had not done!!! Lucky for you the t.v. has a power button so you never have to watch Nancy again!
September 13th, 2006 at 11:39 pm
“If Ms. Duckett did have anything to do with the disappearance of her child, she will be answering to the only individual worldly enough to judge her…. and guess what… It’s not Nancy Grace!”
ditto chris.
September 13th, 2006 at 11:42 pm
Nancy Grace didn’t cause this girls suicide. Guilt did. When jonBenet was missing the press questioned her parents relentlessly as if they were responsible or involved and they didn’t kill themselves.
They denied it and went on with their effort to find the murderer. All parents of missing children are initially questioned in that manner. They are the first suspects.
This young woman was guilty. A blind man on a galloping horse could see that.
Nancy Grace is not the cause of her suicide. I saw the show and was surprised Nancy waited so long before demanding some concrete answers. Melinda Ducket, from what I could tell from her writings that Nancy Grace read on tv tonight, was a very confused Korean girl adopted by an american family who felt culturally alienated, lost and very, very unhappy.
just referring to herself as “machiavilan” on my space says volumes about who she was.
Unlike Andrea Yates and Susan Smith at least she had the decency to take her own life. Oh and by the way, the fact that Melinda Duckett put Trentons car seat up for sale is another major red flag. Andrea yates should be sitting on death row right now, not in a mental institution. I never could understand how mental illness is an excuse for murder. Don’t you have to be crazy to kill someone? Especially your own kids.
September 13th, 2006 at 11:53 pm
wow… how truly scary some peeps are. what do you want? she DIED. what more can you exact from this poor soul? what more can she do to appease your thirst for other people’s tragedies and dirty laundry? wtf DO YOU WANT FROM HER?
September 13th, 2006 at 11:56 pm
We want to know why she did whatever it was she did to that poor innocent boy! That is what we want from her. And I wish she were alive so she could live with her guilt in prison.
September 13th, 2006 at 11:58 pm
Nancy Grace did not have nothing to do with her death ,,,if that girl had nothing to hide she would have answered the Questions ,,,she dodged every Questions Nancy asked,,it was not hard to pick up she was hiding something…no lump in her throat while she talked or sounds of crying…if she really wanted to find her child she would have asnwerd and offered everything she knew to bring her child back home,,,she dident cause i think she knew what happened, i hope nancy has the 2 friends she had that night on her show,,,would be interesting to hear what they have to say,,,,and all the Business Out There Please Check Your Vidio Cams…Nancy dont feel any fault of her death ,,keep up the good work i love your show,,,you are always there when people need your help love you for that
September 13th, 2006 at 11:59 pm
no amber. you are lying to yourself because if you were capable of true LOVE, you would not be condemning one who hasn’t even been buried. a 21 year old adopted tragic mother blah blah?
now look into your heart please. have some sympathy and some… taste.
September 13th, 2006 at 11:59 pm
Nancy Grace mention the mother’s blog, and someone here has mentioned the dad’s blog…could someone please post links to these blogs so we can take a look?
September 14th, 2006 at 12:08 am
maya, are you nuts? a 21 year old who was lucky enough to get adopted and whats so tragic about being a 21 yr old mother?
that’s a blessing. Your sympathy for Melinda Duckett is misplaced. It is
the little boy who needs sympathy.
September 14th, 2006 at 12:10 am
this link has a few of Melinda’s blogs.
http://crimeblog.us/?p=101
Maya do you think she had anything to do with her sons disappearance?
September 14th, 2006 at 12:16 am
yes i do amber. and i do apologize to you because i ended up doing what i despise, and judged you on your ‘judgment.’ but at least, you’re here to defend yourself.
my point is, what i think doesn’t matter one bit. i have no right to even think about someone else’s tragedy on TV, much less judge, because there are so many gaps in my info… and i certainly have no right to judge ANYONE! ever.
September 14th, 2006 at 12:20 am
dear anon, one’s ‘blessing’ may be another’s tragedy. in case you havent noticed, see ‘melinda duckett.’
September 14th, 2006 at 4:53 am
I have never seen a bigger bunch of judgemental know-nothings in my entire life! No one here knows the exact mental state of Melinda Duckett, because no one here has done any serious analysis with her. Such questions are speculation. Melinda Duckett has not been afforded even a moment of legal defense in a court of law. Any proclamations of guilt are speculation. Nancy Grace had no right or even obligation to press for specifics of the case on national television. Nancy Grace had no right or journalistic obligation to act as a)investigative agent or b) prosecutorial questioner. Given the presumption of innocence the legal system in the U.S. is based on, Grace should have approached Melinda Duckett as a mother who has lost a child and nothing more. She failed in that as a journalist and an interviewer. She irrevocably harmed the case. And there is absolutely no scientific evidence that a polygraph detects guilt or innocence. In fact the polygraph is one of the most unscientific pieces of equipment to be found in law enforcement. That is why, as Grace knows, polygraph results are inadmissable in most courtrooms. Any one of you who believes they KNOW with any semblence of certainty the Melinda Duckett harmed or knows the whereabouts of her son should be ashamed of themselves. I only hope if I ever have to stand trial for a crime I did not commit I do not have any of you egotistical “I know the facts even though I am ignorant of them all” inane pseudo intellects on the jury. And if that sounds like I am judging you it’s because I am.
And I would add that I have no idea what happened to the child and whether or not Melinda Duckett had anything to do with the situation, because it is impossible to make that determination at this point. Suicide is not, despite what you may wish to assume, a declaration of guilt. As we learned recently in the tired Jon Benet Ramsey case, a declaration of guilt isn’t even necessarily indicative of guilt. I don’t know, you don’t know and Nancy Grace and all her publicity seeking talking head friends don’t know.
September 14th, 2006 at 6:06 am
You people are all full of sh1t!! You are nothing more than e-lawyers and ass backwards dick tracy’s. You don’t know what the hell you’re talking about, so stop speculating. The bottom line is Nancy Grace had no right or legal authority to do what she did. Now the little boy may never be found because some stupid “rating happy” @55hole decided to try to squeeze this woman for answers. This lady blew the damn case. Now whether she did harm the boy or not, the authorities may never know. Nancy Grace should be charged with charged with illegally interfering with this case. Nancy Grace makes me sick and so do you ignorant people. I hope that little boy is in peace somewhere, God bless his little soul.
September 14th, 2006 at 6:17 am
Letting your kid sleep in shorts makes you a bad parent? Sheesh!
September 14th, 2006 at 6:41 am
Maybe she wasn’t crying or couldn’t answer the questions because she KNEW her son was FINE? If she were a psychopath, one of their BIGGEST common traits is the ability to lie without remorse and on cue–which this girl obviously didn’t HAVE.
Perhaps she hid the child to hurt the father or to keep him safe–but either way she knew she couldn’t keep up with the lies and she had two choices let them keep grilling her and have them find out where the child was-and consquently have custody reverted to the father OR find a way to bury the secret forever.
We may NEVER know-but any one that has ever had the unfortunate happenstance of being grilled by police or a prosecuter should know that NO ONE (except a pyscho with no remorse) could answer questions on cue when under so much pressure.
Oh and I laugh when I am nervous too–my friend was raped and when they GRILLED ME at his trial I couldn’t do a dam thing but laugh on the stand because I was so upset and nervous. It’s called a nervous laugh.
Don’t tell me known of you have NEVER laughed when someone else got hurt or when your nervous because EVERYONE does it.
September 14th, 2006 at 7:56 am
I read that the child’s father threatened to kill her and the son in the past, isn’t it possible he killed her? Are they sure yet that it was self-inflicted?
September 14th, 2006 at 10:40 am
When I saw, many years ago, the first interview of Susan Smith, I turned to my husband and said “something’s not right with this”. It never entered my mind that she had done what she did…I just thought she had probably hidden her babies from her husband. Man, was I ever so shocked to be faced with the reality. It seems since then, this thing of “killing our babies” has turned into a trend. Why wouldn’t she think she would get away with it…the other mothers have.
September 14th, 2006 at 10:48 am
Putting your baby to bed dressed the way she claimed at 6:30 p.m. is not normal motherly behavior. Most children are put to bed at that time because they are being punished. I don’t believe that child was ever there that night. I also think it’s odd that the clothing she describes is backwards. While shopping he had on diaper and shorts….when going to bed he had on shorts and shirt. Does anyone know where the gun is that she had just purchased? Also, if she had sold this child, wouldn’t there have been some trace of a substantial amount of money?
My boys are grown now and I have always clung onto everything I can, i.e. drawings, little sayings. I can’t imagine attempting to sell my missing child’s car seat.
September 14th, 2006 at 11:06 am
I have to agree with all that feel the ‘mother’ had something to do with it. However, I feel there may have been another motive. It seems that the father sent an email claiming he would ‘hunt them both down and kill them’ in early July. Could she have been trying to frame dad and also free herself of mommy duty at 21 years old ?
September 14th, 2006 at 11:07 am
To the Nancy Grace haters, (I am one too, but it’s based on her arrogant personality) what Nancy does have, is plain old common sense, something y’all seem to lack.
Melinda taking her own life is another
indication of how unbalanced she was.
There is such a thing as circumstantial evidence, as in Scott Peterson, and it is mounting up against her.
I feel bad for everyone involved in this tragic situation, but making Nancy Grace the scapegoat is ridiculous.
September 14th, 2006 at 11:17 am
This will be my last post. Joshua threatened Melindas life and Trentons. How do we not know that Joshua saw Melinda at her grandparents and admitted to getting to Trenton and following threw with the threat?
We don’t. We never will. He certainly made 2 more comments. He thought that NG did a great job with the interview. Why not he tried to put Melinda over the edge for over a year. NG does the hard work for him. Of course he’s going to be impressed.
He’s not going to Melindas funeral out of respect to the family. GG! He didn’t think of respect to the family when he was mentally abusing her to send her over the edge. Now He’s finished with both his wife and his son. He got exactly what he wanted.
You can’t call Melinda names. She was mentally and verbally abused by Joshua. You can’t assume that she’s another Susan Smith, because she LOVED Trenton. He was everything to her, the most positive thing that she ever had in her life. Unless you knew Melinda, or the Eubanks. Lets end the debate.
If you want to cast a stone at Mindy, your not any better than Nancy and Joshua. How can you sleep at night? Because you simply don’t have a life of your own.
I know Mindy’s mother, personally. On behalf of the Eubanks thanks for all of you who aren’t casting judgement until all facts are on the table. For those who are being Dick Tracy’s (thanks Jesse) grow up. Stop bathing in someones sorrow. Feel sorry for yourselves that you are so closed minded. How can you sleep at night. People who live in sheltered homes, and glass houses shouldn’t be the ones to throw rocks at someone who isn’t there to defend themselves. You’ve never been in a situation where life gives you a curve and you can’t handle it. There’s not one time that you can look back and wish you did something differently? Hum… hard to imagine that youd be human.
As a mother, who was verbally abused at one point. Whose was raped in Tampa 2 months to the day of her marriage, whose marriage ended and became a single parent at 20 - who lost her own father due to illness beyond anyones control. I could say that I lost it many times, not everyone is so lucky. My 21 year old is my life. IF anything were to happen to her, I’d crack too. But I have a husband there to support me. Melindas husband only casted judgement on her because it was one more opportunity for him to send her over the edge with the help of NG and yourselves.
Again, thank you for all those who don’t see the black clouds to make an evil assumption. You are the ones that will conquer anything coming your way.
God bless~
September 14th, 2006 at 11:41 am
Why would Melinda try to sell Trenton’s carseat unless she knew he wouldn’t be coming back to use it?
September 14th, 2006 at 11:44 am
Does anyone know what happened to the gun she bought a couple of days before Trenton went missing? Where does the theory of selling him come from? Wouldn’t there have been a substantial amount of money found somewhere?
The most compelling clues to me are the clothes. She has the clothing turned around, don’t you think? She said when they were out in the public he was wearing a diaper and shorts and when she put him to bed (at 6:30 no doubt) he was wearing a shirt and shorts. I don’t believe she ever put him to bed that night and he was NEVER there when she was “entertaining”. She was even so selfish that she blew her brains out in someone’s else home. Whey didn’t she just go down the street to her own place and make the mess?
September 14th, 2006 at 11:45 am
to wife of private investigator, it seems that you don’t know anything about this except that you know the girls mother who is and has been 2000 miles away from the event. Verbal and mental abuse? like that’s an excuse?
sorry for your bad life experiences, we have all had them, but they do not make a successful argument in this case. the husband didn’t kill her.
what - did he put her in her grandma’s closet and make her shoot herself? For a private investigators wife, you sure
need to do your homework.
September 14th, 2006 at 11:48 am
I stand corrected: it should have read “someone else’s home”.
September 14th, 2006 at 2:09 pm
I just would like to say that while melinda lived in NY i went to highschool with her, and if you knew her all this stuff just doesnt fit her character. WE did volunteer work together. She was a smart, friendly girl, we all make bad decisions and some people buckle under pressure. When you have tons of people saying youre guilty it will make you do crazy things. I hope someday we find the truth. As for now i pray for Trenton to come home, and i hope someday we find out the truth
September 14th, 2006 at 2:36 pm
Let’s try an intellectual experiment. Regardless of where you stand on the missing child and who’s responsible for him being missing, come up with three or more reasons why someone on a national telecast would act strange or give surprising or inconsistent answers that have nothing to do with guilt or innocence. Here are some to get you started: a) she is on medication to calm her nerves, not surprising if her son is missing. b) exhaustion, which can have devastating physical and mental effects. c)confusion as a consequence of any of the above, trying to remember advice from friends, law enforcement and/or a lawyer while answering probing and hostile questioning. d) shock. These are just a few of the reasons why Melinda could appear on television in ways that might raise suspicion, but in fact are perfectly reasonable for an innocent person. At this point, there is no reason to logically suspose Melinda had anything to do with her son’s dissapearance. Nor is there any reason to logically assume she didn’t. All I hear in these conversations is the idea that it was either the mother or father. Limiting the possible options just shows limited imagination or inflexible reasoning.
September 14th, 2006 at 2:45 pm
As a Nancy Grace critic I will say there is no definitive proof her performance the night before Melinda’s suicide is partially or entirely responsible for that act. However, Grace’s behavior in her questioning is by no means without culpability. It was hostile, intrusive, unprofessional both as a reporter/interviewer and as an ex-legal professional and it was disgraceful in all aspects. Given that Grace does not know the whole story to insist on answers from a mother who has lost a child is insensitive at best and unduly aggresive grandstanding at worse. There is no way to dismiss or apologize for her behavior. She should be fired or suspended. I can not say why Melinda killed herself, but I can say that watching Grace during that interview was one of the most irresponsible things I have ever witnessed.
September 14th, 2006 at 3:44 pm
An interesting article on Nancy Grace’s background. It’s a sad story, no doubt about her losing someone, but hardly the “system let my fiance’s killer free” story she peddles, so cynically.
http://www.gatago.com/alt/true-crime/3718979.html
September 14th, 2006 at 4:56 pm
dear ‘wife of…,’ this is my last post too, and if you happen to catch it, please give my most respectful condolences to those who are grieving. perhaps Melinda was less naive than i and knew the nature of many human beings and their TV-derived identities. i’m happy She didnt give them their daily dose, and happier that she effed off nancygraceless. are comments like, ‘didnt live her guilt in prison,’ ‘got away with it like other mothers… smith, yates, blah…’ ad nauseum, really written here, or am i seeing things??? !!! are these TV junkies even worth responding to, are they even human anymore? life isnt vicarious living through your TV shows. you are just angry because Melinda, may God Bless her soul and HE WILL, had the LAST LAUGH ON YOU, and refused to have her soul raped on liveTV by nancy so you could be further entertained. and that is preisely what you deserve. albeit she must have had so few laughs in her own short life. what exactly did she ‘get away with’? which part of this arent you getting? SHE DIED. in fact, she suffered what most cannot even imagine, AND THEN DIED.
and to the human beings here, and there are some, thank you. may you continue to spread your light in such dark places. dont give up for ‘they know not what they do,’ they’re just so out of touch with spirit and light that are blinded and have seemingly sold their souls to… um…’news entertainment.’
September 14th, 2006 at 5:05 pm
Hey–I’d just like to say that it scares and sickens me when I think that in a time where we are supposed to be a bit more enlightened, people can be judged solely by what a reporter or newspaper spouts out without anyone having the decency to research a bit further before wholeheartedly believing what the media dishes out–what are you guys–mindless sheep? Do you believe EVERYTHING the media says? Do you eat everything they feed you? Wow. I got some real estate I’d like to sale you guys–better yet? I have a WHOLE bottle of $100 dollar diet pills that will let you lose weight without exercise or dieting–and better yet–a video of an ALIEN AUTOPSY–I bet you believed NO NEW TAXES too eh? It is possible the Mother was guilty. It is possible the Father is guilty. It is possible that friends and family of both will defend them. It is ALSO more than possible she was innocent and was just a troubled young girl who didn’t know how to handle a bunch of crap hitting her at once. I will admit to feeling so low that I contemplated suicide–but did this make me capable of harming others? Everyone at some point has hit rock bottom–some opt out, some don’t–some think about it, some actually follow through. Her suicide is not an admission of guilt, and it is cold hearted people like you arm chair sleuths who drive people to such desperate acts. Maybe reserving judgment MAY HAVE prodded her to open up about what truly occurred. Police even use the tactic of seeming sympathetic to getting confessions. I doubt ANYONE has confessed while being bullied.
And here’s a thought–INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY–ever heard of the concept?
Just because a case seems damming doesn’t mean it is true. I recall watching a case where a man was seen fleeing from an apartment where a girl was murdered. The guy was evasive and would never say where he was the night of the murder.
DNA evidence proved that the fleeing man WAS NOT THE WOMAN’S KILLER!!!!!!!!!
They found the true killer and the man had confessed to the killings. Police speculated that fear of being blamed was what made the first suspect hesitant to say where he was that night.
There can be a number of reasons for seeming evasive.
I recall a case in Florida where a young man who had been arrested for beating his grandmother was being charged for the serial murder of college co-eds. I had followed the case and had felt, based on what I was reading (and my own research) they had the wrong guy. The man who had killed the women posed them like dolls–this was a methodical killer–a man who beats up his grandma is hardly “methodical”. I argued this over with a few intellectuals who said I was just plain nuts. The media crucified the guy–but guess whet? Later the guy was found to be INNOCENT yes–INNOCENT! That’s right–innocent.
Just because info looks damning doesn’t mean it is. Suicide is not a proof of guilt, if nothing else it is simply proof of some kind of emotional and mental breakdown. Evasiveness is not proof of guilt. As was pointed out (and those who want to hang onto Nancy Grace Star as if she is some kind of Voice of God refuse to even look at), it is highly possible to be innocent and yet seem guilty based on confusion, fear, shock, nervousness…I recall being accused a couple of times in my past of things I did not do and just stuttering and being fearful BECAUSE I felt I wouldn’t be believed no matter what I say, which is true. Once people believe what they do, they can hardly be swayed. If you defend yourself, people say you are being too “defensive”, if you say nothing, people say, well if you didn’t do it and you have nothing to hide, why won’t you defend yourself? It is a horrid catch 22. I doubt there was anyway she could have acted, spoke or looked–people would assume the worst and use her actions as proof of guilt. If she had cried she would have been seen as overly emotional and weak.
If she had given all the right answers, it would have seemed too clean too perfect.
See what I am getting at here?
Me–I tend to get upset and defensive when accused of something I didn’t do, which of course only made me look more guilty–and nothing is more frustrating than knowing you are innocent and people thinking you are guilty based on how you are SUPPOSED to react.. We are all individuals–we all react very differently to situations. When My Dad died, my sister cried for hours. A single tear rolled down my cheek–it wasn’t until a month later at a party that I just burst into tears for no reason.
Now to someone who did not know me, if they had seen my first reaction they may NOT have thought I cared or that I was grieving.
I did. I was.
We have all been in the uncomfortable position of having to answer to something we did not do–be it at work, in school, or in relationships.
We all have and anyone who has not has been tremendously blessed.
I tell yeah one thing–no way would I ever take a polygraph–just the idea would have me freaked out and they could ask me if I was really Osoma Bin Laden and I would probably be seen as guilty ( I am a girl by the way).
It is NOT conclusive and MOST LAWYERS tell you NOT to take them, with good reason.
There is no ONE WAY to act to something and every one is different. You guys did not know her nor are you psychologists, so you can’t really say what was truly behind what appeared to be evasiveness–she could have, in the midst of grieving, be thinking to herself–damn what did my LAWYER say NOT to say?????
People are just automatically more cynical and suspicious than they used to be. Whereas it used to be innocent until proven guilty now it’s you are GUILTY no matter what? What is happening to America when a TV show journalist can decide the fate of a persons ENTIRE life–if someone has to face the chair I want to know they had their day in court and that all the evidence showed they indeed did it. So many people have been falsely put into jail and DNA evidence has been freeing them–likewise people have tried to get away with murder and DNA evidence has convicted them–BUT evidence did this–not the late night news. Heaven forbid any one of you who are so glibly letting the media convict a dead woman ever get to a point where you are accused of something and have to defend yourself–you may have a hard time coming up with all the right answers too–but also, think this–if you DID have all the answers people will say “well isn’t that convenient” and if you DID Show emotion maybe people will say “You don’t have it together”. That is why EVIDENCE and courtrooms are necessary. This mob would have rushed to judgment and hung her old west style–but how horrid would this mob feel if they found out SHE DIDN’T do anything to the child.
You can’t apologize to a grave.
THIS IS WHY WE HAVE A COURT SYSTEM people–so that at the end of the day we can feel reasonablely assured that we have the right guy or girl in custody. We can’t ruin people’s lives based on hunches or speculation!
Yes vigilante justice may feel good–but the probability rate of being right is very low–this isn’t to say that American courts are perfect, innocent people have gone to jail and murderers have been set free, but it sure beats the alternative, which is vigilante mob justice or trial by media, especially when “trial by media” has it’s own suspicious reasons for fanning the fires of untruth. I mean, what is the destruction of one person’s life when it comes to Millions of dollars in ratings–people kill for less.
Also, I despise people like Nancy Grace–the woman is not a champion or hero for anyone but herself. I watched one show where she was talking about a mother who lost her child (the girl was murdered by a friend) Having just lost a daughter she had to listen to Nancy say things like “And she let her poor thirteen year old daughter hitch hike to Church.” Now, the Woman’s Pastor was there and she asked him about the whole supposed Hitch hiking incident. The man said, “Well, I don’t recall that. The family didn’t have a car so she’d arrange for her to get picked up…”
Well, what do you know–they never asked the Pastor another question, and Nancy kept insisting on claiming the girl hitch hiked to Church even when the woman’s OWN PASTOR said otherwise.
Yeah–Champion of truth! Sure.
September 14th, 2006 at 5:11 pm
PS–I know the media can do things to make people look bad–I had a friend who was on a TV SHOW like AMERICAN IDOL (it wasn’t AMERICAN IDOL but I am not sure if I can mention this show without getting into trouble, particularly since this friend is still under contract although being booted off the show). HE made a comment and it made him seem arrogant. I knew the guy and I felt he NEVER said it that way. This guy was the most HUMBLE man I knew. Well–he didn’t advance to the final rounds and when he came home he told me that his comment had been edited to make him look bad. He was crushed and disillusioned by the entire thing and I don’t blame him.
I had told people that before he even confirmed it that he never said that and no one believed me–I know how nasty the media is–they don’t care about the truth–they care about ratings.
September 14th, 2006 at 5:53 pm
To Maya :
Just because someone died doesn’t excuse or earse what they did.. IF she did killed her kid then she got away with murder.. Are you saying we should forget anyone that kill themselves after they murdered somoeone??? What about the kids in columbine? the victims of their senseless shooting? should we just forget those 2 because they took their own lives? I think not.. People want justice, they want closure..
saying Melinda had the last laugh is just simply the stupidest thing i ever heard.. She wont let tv raped her soul so she off herself? THe last time I check taking your own life is the worst thing one can do to to their soul accounding to your god theory.. so God wont be blessing her soul if she had any
September 14th, 2006 at 5:59 pm
to raerae:
I agree with your innocent before guility line, BUT OJ was found innocent.. Robert blake.. and i think we ALL know they DID it
September 14th, 2006 at 6:23 pm
Innocent before guilty is an oxymoron, either you are guilty or you’re not, a verdict cannot change what you did or didn’t do. The phrase is “presumption of innocence”, which is how anyone should approach Melinda at this point.As for O.J. and Blake, their cases have no impact on any reality outside their cases. That’s like saying a single german shepherd killed someone therefore all german shepherds are killers.
And we can’t make any presumptions about god either, for christ’s sake. Geez, if you can’t judge the poor woman’s actions on earth, how are you going to presume to know what god is going to do?
And Tony, there is a distinct difference between forgiving and forgetting the actions of a pair of suicidal/homicidal teenagers we know are guilty and a woman we have no knowledge of. We don’t know IF she killed or hid her son and we don’t know WHY she killed herself. And if the justice system was set up to accommadate the emotional needs of the public that’s the first time I’ve heard of it. Justice is meted out by the state under specific rules and governance. It is rightfully geared toward protecting the innocent from wrongful application of justice, not making sure those who feel wronged have closure. Cases are titled “The State vs. The accused”, the state representing the society threatened by the actions of the accused, not the feelings of the survivors. It has to be this way or justice won’t work. I grant you it is not perfect, but if you ever find yourself accused of something you didn’t do you will be glad of it.
September 14th, 2006 at 7:19 pm
If you haven’t seen this footage of Melinda yet, you should watch it.
It is very revealing. I would be intrested to hear what someone
who is an expert of body language
etc would have to say about it.
http://www.wftv.com/news/9812549/detail.html
September 14th, 2006 at 7:49 pm
interview with the father:
http://www.wesh.com/video/9850724/index.html
September 14th, 2006 at 8:47 pm
It’s good to see that trials are no longer needed in America. Now, the general public guided by the great Nancy (I know everything) Grace, will quickly determine guilt or innocence based upon one’s demeanor. It’s a shame we blow so much tax money on these un-needed “fair trials”. I think all courts should be absolved and Nancy appointed as the Grand Overlord of American Justice. Then she can give the thumbs up, or down, and we can simply hang them in the streets.
September 14th, 2006 at 8:54 pm
Mike,and others who want to blame nancy grace for having common sense, why is it so hard
to understand that Melinda would not tell the police or the FBI where she was from 4pm saturday to 7pm sunday, and that my friends is where the guilt comes into play. I am sure they will eventually find the forensics to prove she was involved in his disappearance, and all you bend over backwards trying to give her the benefit of the doubt thomas’ will understand that sometimes a cigar is a cigar.
September 14th, 2006 at 8:58 pm
Anonymous: I just watched both interviews…I too would like to see what a body language expert would say!
September 14th, 2006 at 9:06 pm
im delighted she killed herself and have been happy all day after i heard that-i feel like its christmas in september-my only regret is that i thihnk it would have been more funny if she had drowned on live tv with nancy grace laughing
September 14th, 2006 at 9:09 pm
Hopfully none of will ever be accused of a crime. If so, I hope you don’t expect more fairness from the system than you give today.
September 14th, 2006 at 9:12 pm
does anyone know where we can see pictures of the mother dead and the suicide note-i need to have more fun with this-god its like christmas morning when you got what toy you asked for im happy as a pig in muck
September 14th, 2006 at 9:22 pm
Raerae, thank you so much. Its good to see that some people hetr can read and comprehend (unlike Anonymous)
I was not building a case for Melinda. I was merely expressing that people handle stress differently. When change happens all at once some people can handle some opt out. No matter what the age. I just think that a 21 year old who has the finger pointed at her is not necessarily guilty. I also believe that because someone commits suicide doesn’t make them any guiltier than someone who overly complying with the authorities. The shoe can be on the same foot, 2 different extremes. Just because the father is making himself look “good” doesn’t mean that he’s off the hook. Joshua seems to be just as psycho. He threatened 2 peoples lives. Why is he any better? Before anyone goes on the war path yet again, I’m just saying that you cannot call Melinda a psycho when apparently it could have worked both ways.
There are a lot of rumors out there, a lot of so called reports. The media has not been known for telling the whole truths.
The fact is Trenton is still missing. Somewhere, somehow. Casting the fingers isn’t helping the baby. Debating isn’t helping the baby. Speculating should be left to the media. We can only hope and pray that Trenton is still out there and safe.
September 14th, 2006 at 9:27 pm
mark you are one sick person,,,what if it were your child and wife and someone wrote a sick remark as you did..your discusting…
September 14th, 2006 at 9:40 pm
I think I would be more concerned for any children in Marks care.
September 14th, 2006 at 9:41 pm
I second that one Mike!
September 14th, 2006 at 9:42 pm
Mark is sick and his comments are disgusting. He obviously is not mentally well. The wife of a private investigator is just not well informed and obviously has not read the material on this case. The police have the fathers computer and the father didn’t write that threatening letter to Melinda. I appreciate an open mind, but in the case of wife of a private investigator, she needs to get up to snuff on the details or else that open mind is more of a hole in her head.
September 14th, 2006 at 9:45 pm
If we are to conclude what the character of this childs mother is by her behavior and statements she made on camera, what does Mark’s behavior indicate? Perhaps he is a killer of chidren. Perhaps he should be persecuted.
September 14th, 2006 at 9:45 pm
Murderer
September 14th, 2006 at 11:07 pm
im not dangerous guys-i rescue sick animals-hope that helps
September 14th, 2006 at 11:16 pm
So Mark……..Why the desire to see pictures of this dead woman?
September 14th, 2006 at 11:25 pm
LOL… mark… has a point about ‘drowning on live TV.’ that WAS the way in the big which hunt, eh? of course he COULD, technically, be a ‘psycho.’ not any more ‘psycho’ than some others here, though.
nah… i think mark just has a morbid sense of humour, and it may be justified given how some are behaving here. whether ‘psycho’ or not, point should be well taken by all. i might even prefer his brand of ‘psycho-ness’ to others’ here. he’s pretty honest about it. others are just projecting their own dark thoughts onto a completely innocent scapegoat in the form of Melinda. you are only expressing your own unconcsious thoughts about yourselves.
i know i said ‘my last post,’ but mark was just too provocative… lol
September 14th, 2006 at 11:58 pm
just wondering i watch sylvia brown.. why not call her in she may know where the child is,,from watching her i hear she is the best,, im sure she is following this story…sylvia if you read this please please help,find this baby,,,
September 15th, 2006 at 12:03 am
we just like to look at sick stuff occasionally so long as it doesnt involve valuable people or animals-im non violent and have never even been in a fight in my 37 years- i also constantly help stranded old ladies etc
melinda duckets my space is at http://www.myspace.com/fox3206
listed as mee kee ong lee
heres a haiku i wrote:
me mee kee ong lee
dont know where son be
oh, me so hawny
best wishes you all and god bless
September 15th, 2006 at 12:06 am
oops middle line of a haiku has to be 7 syllables
me mee kee ong lee
i dont know where my son be
me be so hawnee
September 15th, 2006 at 12:10 am
After watching the interview done with Josh Duckett I found it very telling that Melinda had not only threatened suicide on other occasions but had at one point been ‘Baker Acted’. Whatever happened to Trenton quite possibly put her over the edge.
Anybody else feel that she could have accidently harmed her son, panicked then proceeded to cover it up like similar cases in the past?
September 15th, 2006 at 12:12 am
I truly believe that if Sylvia Brown was for real, they would have found everybody by now!
September 15th, 2006 at 12:14 am
Gook was told to answer the question. She “didn’t want to.” Now she will answer it in hell.
Moral: You answer questions when you are asked.
September 15th, 2006 at 12:16 am
“me mee kee ong lee
dont know where son be
oh, me so hawny”
This is the funniest thing I have seen here yet. Thank you Mark, for your inspiring words.
September 15th, 2006 at 12:23 am
In an earlier blog, somebody said Melinda’s mother & family are in New York. I thought Melinda was adopted? Anybody know if this was an open adoption & her real mother did have contact?
September 15th, 2006 at 12:28 am
oooops, mark … um.. no comment. i’m still not convinced he’s a ‘genuine’ psycho, though he does have severe issues. has anyone noticed that the last logon date on the ‘myspace’ account in on 9/13? that is not the police logon. i’m thinking it’s a hoax, as mark is alluding to, unwittingly, or not.
if you watch joshua’s interview, you’ll see how he looks into the camera right on cue of certain statements. melinda’s interviews indicate,(i cannot be too objective here) a person completely broken into a million pieces, yet highly intelligent, virtually incabable of harming anyone (but herself), who does KNOW things she cannot reveal — but it’s not the harming of her child. she is starting to feel resigned that someone, most likely her husband et al, has just pulled one on her.
September 15th, 2006 at 12:31 am
i guess to answer ambers question it goes like this-when…im not in fla im in virginia and i used to have to drive back and forth to college in savannah, ga-after a couple years there was ont trip up and then back down where i stopped in different conveinece stores-well there was a picture of a missing kid, the same one ini every place i stopped up to dc and on the way back down-that made me realize the family was driving and stopping at every store to put up a picture-that day changed my life-ever since then i see images of missing kid and every year there are more and it never ever stops and so every year i get more annoyed-so ive lost compassion and sympathy for people who dont keep kids reasonably safe or do worse-maybe much worse and i dont appreciate a suicide when the kid may be found and then wheres the mom-you all should be angrier than you are-my opinion
im mad tonight because i was annoyed last night at how anna nichole could let her kid die 50 feet away
September 15th, 2006 at 12:39 am
no prob sparkie were on fire here, buddy
justice man is hilarious he said -Gook was told to answer the question
September 15th, 2006 at 12:49 am
Trolls and scolds and moron hacks,
The idiots are at our backs.
Sylvia is surely fake,
And Grace is quite the flake.
A head blow must have harmed Justice man,
And Mark can only write with crayon.
Half-wits and idiots I’m shown,
Screw you guys, I’m going home.
September 15th, 2006 at 12:58 am
dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out B8ovin
September 15th, 2006 at 1:03 am
grace announces just now the chinamen sold her sons car seat with no apparent placement before he went missing
more haiku
me boom boom rong time
someone kirred my son i say
now shoot head with .9
uhhuhhhuhhuhh ah sank yoou ahauhhha sank you
now i dlift off into afta rife