notes on coming home
Tuesday, December 12th, 2006So what’s it like to come home from deployment?
For one thing, your favorite restaurant sometimes closes while you are gone. I was over at Ciccio & Tony’s on South Howard for lunch today and it looked as though their sushi restaurant, Water, has left us. This is dreadful, awful news, because no matter what you think of Samurai Blue—and it is good—Water had the best sushi in Tampa.
Then, of course, there is always tension with family and friends: you and your family have changed, and you don’t know how yet. It takes time to get that straightened out, and some couples struggle with it a great deal, especially after longer deployments. Imagine coming home after 18 months in the war zone: you may think you’ve changed because of what you’ve seen, but your spouse has survived suddenly being single again for over a year and has changed just as profoundly and permanently. Now you’re supposed to just jump right back in to a relationship? It’s amazing military marriages last as well as they do; military spouses (and girlfriends!) deserve your credit and support as much as the troops themselves.
But there are little things, too, less serious things. I for one am fascinated by the notion of drinking the water that comes out of my tap. In most deployed locations you even have to use bottled water to brush your teeth. And I do a little tap dance in the shower every morning because I don’t have to turn the water off to lather up.
Unfortunately, I’m also having to get used to doing dishes again; four months of letting KBR contractors cook and clean up for you will wreck all your good habits in the kitchen. Last night I tried to cook rice and ended up with something the texture of pebbles.
And then there’s traffic. In Djibouti you drive on the right side of the road, or the middle, or the sidewalk, or the left if you need to. Or anywhere else. Road signs are suggestions not actually backed up by law enforcement. And there are ten times as many pedestrians as there are cars. Back in Tampa… well, let’s just say if anybody’s seen a white Subaru drifting idly across the lanes on 275 or Bayshore this week, I’m very sorry about that and I promise I’ll get better soon.
It’s good to be home anyway.
Also known as Park Tower, this building was built in 1973, the second major skyscraper built in Tampa in the 1970s-1980s building boom and the tallest in town until 1981. Very few people really like it. The interior is a bit outmoded. The building is not full.
wrecking ball will demolish the old apartments and new construction will begin. We know it’s to be a mixed-use and mixed-income development, but what will it actually look like?




